From my journal 1993: In a few days I will be bringing forth yet another child into this already crowded world. Does anyone really care? Does it matter that it’s me or that it will be a boy or whether or not he will ever make a difference in this world? Probably not very many people. Other than those who love us and care about our day to day lives, we are just another pair. In another room someone else will be having a child also, a boy. Will he be a great and important man someday? Who’s to say? But I’ll bet everyone who knows and loves him thinks so too.
And so my mind drifts to the mother of yet another baby boy; only born so long ago, when the world was not quite so crowded, but busy none-the-less. At the moment that Mary first laid eyes on that beautiful baby boy of hers I’ll bet that there were many too busy that night to ever wonder if he would ever be something great either. But he was. And Mary knew it.
Mary, in all her innocence, was just a young woman. Not older and wiser like those who are having their fifth child, like me. Just a sweet first time Mom who would eventually unwrap her baby’s blankets and count his fingers and his toes like we all did with our first baby.
Even knowing who he was I know she felt the same protective feelings we all have toward our babies. She must have thought, “He’s so young, so vulnerable, how could he be so important?”
My heart bleeds for her as she realizes what he must endure for his mission in life. Oh how hard it must have been not to want to cry out in anguish to save the life of her child! To spare him from the pain that must surely come.
I cry too; to save the lives of each of my beautiful children. To spare them from the agony of the lessons they must eventually learn in time. I, too, know the ache of wishing that I could protect them from everything harmful and painful in life.
Mary, Jesus’ mother, she was the woman who taught him to walk, and to speak. Could it have been her who first taught Jesus the art of loving others without judgment? Could it have been his own mother who instilled in him the desire to serve God so willingly and completely? Mary taught him to share and play. Mary hugged and kissed away his bruises and tears. Mary helped him learn obedience and taught him about rules and laws. Who else but his own mother? Aren’t these the things that every mother should teach their own children? Could Mary have been a part of God’s wonderful plan to make Jesus into what he was and who he would become?
And so as I gather my children around me this day and looking from face to face, I think of Mary. And I pray that I can be such a wonderful mother to my children. I pray that I can teach them everything that God wants them to know; everything that I can give them to fulfill the purposes that they have been placed here for. I may have a rocket scientist, a veterinarian, a famous singer or just a great real estate agent in my family. I may even have a President of the United States in my home. Or maybe I’ll just have a great mother or father who will pass on family values and love to their own children. Every child represents the potential for the beginning link in a chain of greatness. All I do know is that how they are prepared today, and how much I can let them know they are loved, will greatly influence who they will become.
It’s true that many people in this huge world were too busy to care what each of my children would become when they were born, or to wonder if they would be anyone significant, but they are. I know it.
So from across the span of time and motherhood I wish you all a very Happy Mother’s Day; and a wish that you find as much delight in your own children, as much potential, as much awe for their future and your part in it as Mary did holding her own bundle of joy so many years ago and as I find in my own today.